Gateway City Chronicles

CW: miscarriage trauma patriarchal bullshit.

People might think I’ll stop being pro-choice after my daughter Sky had a miscarriage. If anything, I’m more pro-choice because instead of my daughter bleeding to death in the parking lot of the hospital, she received care prior to (when they said the baby stopped growing) and will receive care after the bleeding stops, to make sure they got everything, to avoid sepsis. The name of that procedure is a D&C and it sometimes needs to be done to avoid sepsis and other issues.

Knowing Colorado has codified safe and legal abortion access, actually brought me peace, because I know my daughter is being cared for, instead of doctors being afraid they’ll go to prison for helping her, opting instead to let her bleed to death. (Google it, it’s happened.)

Also, by virtue of the fact we live in a Blue State, my daughter isn’t in fear of being imprisoned for having a miscarriage. Because those states where abortion is illegal, are going after women who’ve suffered miscarriages. Because they believe that women are purposely doing that to themselves, because they believe the women wished to have an abortion. They investigate and they would have held Sky accountable because she uses legalized weed for pain and anxiety. She stopped the second she realized she was pregnant. However, look into these cases where the Red States are imprisoning women for miscarriage.

Despite my grief, and  I cried my eyes out the other day and still feel depressed and anxious; I am grateful we live in a Blue State.